Dear jenna:

If you intend to tell him to stop being so rude to your friend, then you are being courageous, assertive and a good friend and a good person. Your goal: to stop bullying is the right thing to do. When you tell him to stop being rude to her, tell him to never be rude to her. It is not good enough if he is only sometimes rude to her.

Standing up to him is not nosy, as you suggested it might be. It is assertive and a good practice.

anita