Dear Bianca:

About making new friends, you wrote: ” I don’t know how to connect with them without looking desperate or tiresome…”

You can reach out to a person, initiate a get together with that person (for lunch, let’s say) without looking desperate or tiresome. You can initiate a get together appearing strong.

Your need to get together with a person, to make a friend, is not a sign of weakness but a sign that you are, indeed human, and all humans need to connect. So it is possible to initiate such while appearing strong. Lots of people do that and succeed.

If you’d like to try such initiating a connection while appearing strong, you can practice here- make up what you would say to a person and in what circumstance: prepare as you visualize and “hear” such an exchange. And I can give you my feedback, if you’d like.

anita