Your fiancé spoke highly of his older sister: “he mentioned how nice his sister is and that we’d get on so well.”

It is your fiancé experience and opinion of his sister that she is nice. It doesn’t mean that she is nice. Maybe she was nice to him, at times. In your experience, she was not nice to you, definitely when she was on the phone the whole time you were alone with her.

If I was you, I would accept that indeed, your fiancé is not the voice of authority about who is nice and who is not. He can only speak of his experience and opinion. As a matter of fact, he is less likely to know his sister than you would. People see their close family members less clearly than strangers do. I would no longer try to make his wrong prediction come true, that is, that the two of you will “get on so well.”

The two of you didn’t click not because you are shy, not after all this time, but because, she is not as nice and sociable and loving as your fiancé believes.

anita