Dear Leanne:

You wrote that your parents are very negative people, very serious. As a little girl, you wrote, you weren’t socially accepted anywhere and often judged for doing something wrong. You didn’t feel that you were special to anyone. When mentioning therapy, you are afraid that the therapist will judge you.

A competent therapist is the last person in the world to judge you. On the contrary, accepting you as you are is the therapist’s number 1 job and responsibility.

No wonder you want to be “everybodies favorite person” (the title of your thread). If you were ANYONE’s favorite person as a child, feeling special to that person, not judged, but accepted and valued, then you wouldn’t need to be everybody’s favorite person now.

Question: is your boyfriend giving you that “favorite person” attention? Or is it that no matter how much positive attention he gives you, it doesn’t feel enough for you?

Does it feel to you that if he gives someone else special attention, then it makes his special attention to you- not special anymore?

anita