Dear Megan,

Oh my dear, the pain you’re going through now is real and only time will help. In this case it might be best to leave him be and move on with your life, as difficult as I know this is. Take your time getting over him before trying again, but don’t wait too long. With that being said, I do have some advice for you, if you’re open.

What you’ve described as caring a man is going to see as smothering, especially early in a relationship. That turns a man off faster then pouring water on a fire. Men like to pursue. They like to be the one taking care of their woman. It gives him genuine pleasure and happiness to do this. It also keeps him interested in you when you have a life outside of him. So for your next relationship don’t be the one texting him all the time. Let him text you first. Make a game of it with yourself. See how long you can hold out before you text him and see if he texts you first. TRUST me, he will. Sometimes it can take a day or so, but if he’s interested he WILL. Your kindness to him is letting him chase you. It makes him feel like a man, and he will love you for it.

Don’t give up hope, just realize that men and women are different and with that understanding you can change your approach and find happiness. Above all though, find things that you enjoy doing by yourself that you don’t need a man for. Don’t wait for him. Love yourself and the right man will come into your life.

Blessings & Love,
Jessi