Dear anita,

Hmmm, I think I have to disagree on this. A person, who is selfish (‘lacking in consideration for others or concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure’) doesn’t automatically correlate to inadequate parenting.

In his case, he was a great parent while the kids were young and they all lived as a family. Then ex wife decided to take the kids and divorce him. For the next 12 years or so, they were raised by her. Once they each turned 18, they came to live with him (and brought the lying, cheating, stealing, lazy, messed up on drugs behavior with them). He tried to help them clean up their lives but they decided to go back to mom, who allows their behavior to go unchecked.

There are some times when bad parenting leads to bad kids, yes … but there are also times (like you and I) when theres bad parenting but the kids come out decent, moral, law abiding people … and times when decent, moral, law abiding parents end up with bad kids.

I’m going to post again in just a little bit but I need to take care of some things at the moment.

Cya soon

~Shipp