Dear hopelesshope:

You wrote in your last post that you are trying to “decipher what lesson” you were “supposed to learn”- for that purpose, let’s look at your situation here…:

You recently discovered, you wrote, that you have an “incurable illness” that will not kill you and that is not causing you any harm.

If this condition does not harm you, is not affecting your body, then I don’t think the word “illness” is correct at all. If it is not an illness, that is, no harm done to your body, no symptoms, then the word “cure” is incorrect either because there are no symptoms to alleviate.

And so “incurable illness” doesn’t read accurate to me.

Clearly your condition is not visible because your ex boyfriend didn’t know about it until you told him, and there are no symptoms to your body. The only problem with this condition is the social stigma you mentioned, a stigma you feel is unjustified.

Can a lesson to be learned perhaps is to not call it an “incurable illness”?

And maybe not to share about it to anyone since it has no symptoms, no progression/ prognosis?

anita