Dear hev20:

You wrote that you have “many years of rejection from others”- like some who have applied to many jobs, got lots of rejections and one acceptance which lead to a great career. Same here. You only need one acceptance.

You wrote about “all the messages from the media about the importance of beauty through being slim, well-dressed and made up like a model.”- I personally know of one slim, incredibly beautiful ex model, well dressed up and made up, more physically beautiful than some of well known movie stars, who is not content and who is suffering, alone. I observed physically slim and beautiful women being insecure, while some less media-approved women being confident.

You wrote: “there is no being the best at love. It seems like such chance.”- in the career world, chance does play a part, sometimes a huge part. In love chance plays a part as well, but you can approach it like you do your career: increasing your chances of success and decreasing the chances of failure.

You wrote: “if I knew I would find love in the future, I wouldn’t worry about it now. If I knew I wasn’t going to find it, I would accept it and move on with my life. Instead I am in Limbo”-

It is chance/ “luck” on one hand and the scientific approach on the other (increasing your chances of success through intentional planning and execution), no guarantees. Just like in the rest of life.

And last, you wrote: “I think this is bigger than love, it’s wanting to feel like I belong somewhere and I won’t struggle through life alone.”- but this IS what love is: “to feel like I belong somewhere and I won’t struggle through life alone.”

anita