Dear Esther:

I will give you then an example regarding “making future plans, not temporary everyday decisions”-

In a previous thread you wrote: “Whilst i live in the family home, she pays my rent, food, everything – she has said if i move out she will help me with nothing and as a result i do feel trapped”-

the future plan would be: to move out of the family home, maybe out of the UK, and live elsewhere, no longer with your mother OR stay in the family home for the rest of your life/ your mother’s life.

To make this future decision, notice how feeling trapped feels like, what does it mean to you, how do you physically experience being trapped-

Notice how you physically experience being comfortable in the family home-

Get to know these experiences in the now, do not distract yourself, see what-is, now, and it may help you decide about trapped vs. comfortable. Maybe you will decide to permanently leave and be free.

anita