Dear jlo5:

Don’t let that guilt, your bad feelings, do that mathematical “miracle” of turning a 0.00001% to a 100%- that can happen so quickly. Say to yourself: I will resist the compulsion to get back with him, no matter how I feel. I only FEEL guilty; I am not guilty.

You “feel for him being alone”- while it is you fearing to be alone, without him. If you explore your own fear of being alone, in competent psychotherapy, maybe, you will be able to leave him be.

It is not him needing you; it is you needing him. That need needs to be looked at, not reacted to, but understood and endured.

Post anytime.

anita