Thank you for replying Anita.

We got married in July last year. Once we returned from our honeymoon he went to Bristol to work for four months.

At the start of Jan he promised we would talk more and he wouldn’t use the silent treatment because it upsets me so much and we would spend more time together.

His cousins never liked me, him and my husband were close growing up and a few times my husband has sent messages to him talking about me in the past. I’ve tried to be a friend to him, he went through an awful breakup and I did the whole what girls say to their girl friends that you can do better and she had an awful fashion sense and as I was trying to be a friend he was texting his ex and she was threatening me and my partner did nothing.

It just got me when he is having ago at me when I haven’t done anything wrong apart from try to get my husband to communicate with me. And he’s telling me that he hasn’t seen him for two weeks…and I’m thinking to myself he’s my husband I should be seeing him everyday and I see him twice a week at the most! I was raging and thinking to myself this isn’t normal!

I think rather than my husband telling them the truth that he told me he was leaving early to sleep at mine he decided to say I was nagging him for going out with the lads but with the recorded calls and texts that proves that wasn’t the case. He defends what he said even though that doesn’t match the evidence. I’m so self critical of myself and I hate confrontation he knows I will back down and apologise which I have. But when listening to the calls and checking through my texts checking that he did msg me saying he was getting a taxi soon…I haven’t done anything wrong.

Now after him saying he doesn’t know if he loves me…is he saying he doesn’t love me anymore, a game of manipulation in itself or just trying to hurt me more than ever.

I’m so crushed I love him with my entire heart and soul he is my absolute world and I would say from my point the marriage wasn’t a mistake but I think he clearly now does and hes now thinking how far can I push her to finally walk away…

I’m just assuming what he is thinking he won’t talk to me so I have no idea.