Dear Debbie:

I didn’t state before that he faked being in love with you. What I meant by faking-it was that he felt, in the last few months of the relationship, more and more as a stranger to his own self, more and more distant from his emotions, until he arrived at the point that there was no in-love emotion left. It was a gradual process on his end.

Next in your post above, you judge him as callous and cowardly- reality is, he was very distressed and didn’t deal well with what was happening in his mind and life. Maybe he was trying to avoid trouble by pretending all is fine. Probably the way he dealt with trouble in the past as well, it being his way of dealing with distress, not a personal offense to you.

Everyone was in shock about the termination of the relationship, you state. The thing is, no matter how believably he acted, it was not in “cold blood” that he did so. There was no dishonest payoff for him to do so- he didn’t make money out of planned deceit. This whole thing didn’t make his life any better.

This whole story is regrettable, not only for you and your family and friends, but also for him. There is no Bad-guy (him) and Good-guy (you).

Hoping you did go for a walk or took a hot bath or shower, or both. keep posting…

anita