Dear Tessa:

You feel that “she has a need for keeping the upper hand, and (you) don’t appreciate that.”-

If you reach out to her, as you are considering, you will feel she is having the upper hand, once again. That will make you feel resentment. I don’t think you like to have the… lower hand, to be under another’s upper hand.

So, no. I wouldn’t reach out to her and take in the thought, come to peace with it, that it is okay if she doesn’t reach out to you.

Time to remove the “Best” out of the “Best Friend” title… maybe the “Friend” as well.

anita