Dear Meg:

When he begged for another chance, you should have conditioned the chance you gave him on going to competent couple counseling. Maybe you can still make this a condition. In couple counseling he will be taught to not be aggressive with you (those abusive remarks, stabs, the silent treatment). Of course, therapy will not cure unwillingness to learn and change.

What are you going to do next, since he didn’t take advantage of the second chance you gave him?

anita