Hi Anita

We have never really had any talks about ‘important ‘ stuff. Not even about whether or not to have children! I don’t think either of us have a massive urge to have kids but when I tried to talk to him about it I just got the reply ‘I’m not adverse to it’. And that was it.

We don’t talk about things we want to do together, places we want to visit, what we want from our future. We live very much in the moment and reactive around his work and schedule. He would never initiate a dinner, weekend away, holidays. He will go with me if he is free.

It was just so different with my work colleague. We discussed books, movies, what we wanted from life, the future. I don’t know.  It’s so hard to explain.

I tried to talk to my husband about our lack of emotional connection and depth and he said I was talking mumbo jumbo and he didn’t understand.

Does that make any sense to you?