Hi again!

Thank you for your kind words!

So I remember being younger and feeling guilty because I liked someone who was gorgeous. LOL

And then later one of my very best/oldest friends started liking me in a romantic way. Now, I’m a bit overweight, I’m not going to lie, but he’s obese. I’m not repelled or disgusted by him or anything. And I was with someone else, so it was easier to say “No”. But let’s put it this way: If he was more attractive (to me!) I would have to contend with the temptation they warn you of in the Bible. Or I would have had spontaneous fantasies of him rather than “Oh, this person likes me? Hmm, let me think about this. How would being with him feel, hmm, let me just put my imagination cap on…”

I mean what can I say, you can be evolved and all that, but preferences are real!

And let me ask you this: Is it really good morally to live a lie? You are not married and if you were truly in love with her you wouldn’t be asking this at all, except maybe only “I am worried about this girl”. This isn’t fair to you OR the girl, even on a higher level.

I wouldn’t want my college boyfriend to have stayed with me out of guilt or because he felt sorry for me or because he felt I might fall apart without him. I’d want someone who is with me because they are crazy about me, not because they like me and all but they really prefer, say, athletic blondes.

Just my opine!

Inky