Hi JayJay, It truly amazes me how some people can just quickly jump from one relationship to another like this and they always find someone to go along with their plan. I mean if I am understanding correctly, he basically knew her a week (or not very long) and they are moving in together. How strange is that? But thing is I suspect it will never be a truly healthy relationship (unless one or both of them have a lightbulb moment and seek therapy for their issues). I suspect in time she will just become unhappy again, create another negative narrative and find someone else and rinse and repeat.

I think there must be a lot of relationships out there like this. I just don’t get it though. I guess it’s just very hard for us to see are weak spots in our behaviour. So scary, but wouldn’t enjoy a relationship like that for myself. But I guess Anita is right no one is immune to this sort of behaviour, we can all slip into falling into such relationships. I guess this is where it’s important to learn what healthy behaviour in relationship looks like and have good boundaries and all that jazz. I am of course not immune to being sucked in by certain people and not seeing the signs for a while. I’m getting better at noticing it though. But I realise we all put certain glasses on, that can cloud our judgement.

Humans are so complicated!