Hi Roy Phang,

I believe what you need is a Mission in Life. Men are told to make money. Couples are told to be faithful. So when you aren’t solvent or faithful you feel badly about yourself. Cheating is a symptom of trying to find fulfillment. Because of the belief that you aren’t making money so you need to fill the perceived void.

There’s a Shaker (Quaker?) song “Tis a Gift to be Simple”. Tis a gift to be simple, tis a gift to be free, tis a gift to come down where you ought to be. And when you find yourself in this place just right you’ll be in a place of love and delight… YouTube it.

Live within your means. Stay true to your wife. And find a faith or spiritual community, and/or a cause you can help with.

Blessings,

Inky