Dear Blondie70,

sorry to hear about your situation. Most people find sex and intimacy crucial in a relationship; that is what makes it different from friendship. I must say that you have been very patient! No sex for such a long time. In a way you don”t even know your boyfriend very well by now, because sex is the most intimate way of connecting and that is not present between you two.

The bad news: it is possible that your boyfriend is such a porn addict that you can never have satisfying sex with him. Or at least it may take a long time of some kind of sexual therapy for him to make you sexually satisfied together. Are you ready for that? Many would not be but would find some other partner. One option, of course, would be an open relationship. How does that make you feel? I would feel very frustrated to have a man in my life and we would not have sex at all. Maybe sex is not very important to you at all? If that is the case, everything is ok. If not, things need to change.