Dear likegreenlover:

You wrote in your second post: “arguing was pretty frequent but we’d been through worse in previous years.” In your next post, you wrote: “To be honest previous years were great”- I suppose in previous years there were great times for you but there were also times of frequent arguments, correct?

You wrote: “i noticed a change in him on his 21st birthday in April (we broke up in November)”- this is seven months of that change. Five months of it were before he cheated on you, if I am calculating correctly.

He was only a teenager (both of you were) when the relationship started. This is a possiblility, and only a possibility, for you to consider, if you’d like:

He may have had conflicts with his parents/family that have lead him to diverging from them, most significantly at 21. By the very fact that you were (and are) so close to his family, his diverging from his family included diverging from you.

The fact that his family is still reaching out to you while you have no contact with him means that there is a limited and conflicted relationship between them. If they weren’t his family, maybe he would have completely broken up with them as well.

Hope you post again with your thoughts and feelings.

anita