Dear laelithia:

If you drive three hours to and three hours back to see him for coffee, for a different context, you may see your Fantasy to be just that, a fantasy, and you may let it go. It is also possible that after the event, looking back on it, you will worry, once again, that you were not true to yourself, that you didn’t behave perfectly, and that is the reason why he (still) doesn’t love you anymore.

It can turn out worse: he may want a mini ride on that adventure park ride, one more drive in that car. That can take you to an intense High, followed by a crushing Low.

You are in a tough spot: you rationally understand that he is a Fantasy, but emotionally you are not convinced. You still hope, and that means, your heart didn’t catch up to your rational thinking. It brings this line to my mind: “The heart wants what the heart wants”-

Can you complete this sentence, for me: My heart wants ___________________

anita