Dear Lester:

You may have to take a break from the relationship, if it threatens your career. If you choose to continue the relationship, I do agree with you that you need help. Unfortunately, you need more help that you can get here, on this website. I believe you need a competent, capable psychotherapist to help you regulate your emotions, to start, so that you are not overwhelmed by jealousy and such.

Seek such professional help as soon as possible, please.

anita