Dear Lin,

No matter how awesome a man is, how successful, good looking, compatible, etc, unfortunately, people can drift apart. Relationships are difficult and complicated. You said you were with him a long time, I am wondering, was there ever any discussion of a future with each other..such as marriage, engagement, children, etc? Maybe if there is no discussion, maybe hope was lost of a future together and things just fizzled out.

There might still be hope. Talk to him. Go on a vacation where you have never been before away from routine and try to get the spark back. Have date nights. Light candles. Compliment him. Have a bubble bath with him. Take him on a long romantic drive at night. Look at the stars. Go to a drive-in..or a bed and breakfast. Just something you two have never done before to rekindle things. Let us know how things go.