I’ve read the posts you and Scott said on the form Scott posted titled Relationship Anxiety Cycle, his post caught my attention because I was like this and still am doing the same cycle he put himself in. I have done the same cycle with my ex best friend years ago way before social media. I have realized (when I befriended my current best friend) that she and I grew attach to each other due to the past abuse caused by our own exes. in her case it was her abusive boyfriend and to me it was my first love and first heartbreak with my childhood friend. My current best friend was sexually assulted at age 13 and try to commit sufficed a few times. she later dated a abusier that tried to get her pregnant, he controlled her and mainlipuated her as well. I can never relate the pain she been through yet she told me that I should have never be treated the way my ex best friend treated me. I just never understood why she felt I was treated horribly when she in fact went through hell at a very young age.

I can see now, why she grew attach to me so quickly and afraid to lose me. She always was so apologetic to me if she forgot to reply to my message (it only been a day pass) or when she made me nervous when she gave me that “hope” that we could have a relationship in the future. She was so willing to let me know she will never hurt me. When we talk she tells me about her life in full detail, she explains herself in a more of a victim type of person in whatever situation she is in. that I’ll give her sympathy and worry about her that I end up comforting her. it became a addiction for me to wanting to know her well being and about her life. She likes my attention. US both do this to each other. This is why I wanted to take a step back, we need to care for our own selves first. But we still have each other close even though there is a ocean between us. Usually she texts first more than I text her, now days we hardly text much. She is out of work and stays at home due to a illness she is caring for before she goes back to work. I give her space but as I said before she is always on my mind and I do check in on her.

About my relationship with my family, I am close with my parents and my older three sisters. I was very close to my friends I grew up with that included my ex best friend. my attachment to people started with my family and my childhood friends. this explains why I am so close to my new best friend cause after breaking up my friendship with my ex best friend, my new friend and I enter each others lives quickly and grew attach to each other.

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