Dear Connie:

I hope you do move on after you learn what you can learn from this relationship so to become a better person and a better future girlfriend to another good man. Learn to control the expressions of your anger and desperation so that you are not verbally abusive. Learn to not to push a man away when you don’t want him away.

You wrote: “He was a great boyfriend, yet I ruined our relationship. I don’t know if I will be able to forgive myself and move on.”- the way you earn self forgiveness, I believe, is by learning and doing the work required to heal from what distresses you so much in relationships, and as a result, become the loving, gentle person you were born to be.

anita