Hi Chelsea,

Have you ever heard the term “too many cooks in the kitchen, spoils the pot” (or something, like that). This is what is happening in your case. There are too many people, making too much confusion. You said you have had “trust issues” in the past which does not help matters, but you can’t let your past ruin your future.

This man may be telling you the truth. There is no lack of evidence he is not. It’s all pettyness, texting, “he said, she said” on the part of your friends and not him. They may be jealous because you have a boyfriend, or they just like to create drama and trouble.

You need to take out the “trash” for awhile, while you are in a new relationship with this man. That means, Try to just be with him, and not get sucked in by all this “she tested so and so, he said, He didn’t, she said this” it creates needless conflict on the relationship, because it’s just words and not based on fact. Try to not be around them for awhile when you are with this man. Just focus on him..not on drama, fair weather friends, petty stuff, etc. Instead of always texting or e-mailing, call him on the phone. Don’t talk to the gossipers about him. If you have to be with him, don’t talk about him. You will find better communication and a healthier relationship with him, by throwing out the trash for a little bit, and just focusing on you and him. Keep us posted.

• This reply was modified 7 years, 5 months ago by Eliana.