Craig

I felt that I had “checked out” of my marriage and my ex wife had made allusions to that. Basically she was saying that I was on autopilot and was not fully engaged in my family and kids. Since then I have a much deeper relationship with my kids and I am grateful for that. That was the best thing that has happened post divorce.

No one told me I was too invested, but I wanted more time with my girlfriend. I was everything that I wasn’t in this relationship compared to my marriage. I was very complimentary, warm, a good listener. Unfortunately it wasn’t good enough.

So at this point I am going through the grief of a breakup and I am miserable.