Hi Jeff,

Of course, you’re feeling lonely and miserable.  You still love her and miss her.  It will take a lot of time to grieve for this loss.  When you break-up with someone, it’s normal to remember all the things you appreciated about them, all the things that brought you together in the first place.  But you also need to remember, that you felt lonely and miserable in your relationship with her, as she wasn’t giving you the time, energy, and attention you wanted and deserved.  And that is why you chose to break up with her in the first place.  It’s difficult even when it’s mutual.

You must honor your feelings of loss.  Actually feel sad and lonely.  Maybe write them on the page.  Find a way to process and express what you’re experiencing right now.  The intention is not to share them with anyone (including your ex-girlfriend), but to share them with yourself.  To find out more about who you are and what you want.  To give you a constructive way to grieve.

In the meantime, try to be patient with yourself.  Be kind and loving to and compassionate with yourself.  And try to do something each day that makes you feel a little better.

One day at a time.  Sometimes, one minute at a time.  I’m sorry that you’re struggling with this.

Take Care.

Dawn