Dear davis:

I don’t have experience with this particular situation, that is, being in a long distance relationship with a man who broke up with me because he is depressed. If you would like my input anyway, here it is:

You asked: “what are the chances that when he recovers he will find his way back to me?”-my suggested answer is that first, he may not recover. He will probably feel better as no feeling stays the same. He may have a … revival period of time, but the depression may come and go. I don’t know.

Second, what the relationship has been for you, what it meant for you is not necessarily what it meant for him. Meaning, if you got depressed maybe your reaction would have been to reach out to him more, for comfort while his reaction is to withdraw. He needed to break up with you, be it temporarily, because some aspect or aspects of the relationship are troubling him, standing in his way of feeling better, or so he feels.

You could ask him what about the relationship is troubling him, what it is that he “doesn’t want to have to worry about”- that would give you more information and a better ability to predict likelihood of getting back together.

anita