Dear Natasha,

Thank you for sharing your experience and your troubles. From what you wrote it is clear that you are a strong young woman who loves and cares deeply for others.

It is my hope that you consider the advice I have to offer.

Even though you may feel sad and disheartened over the whole situation with Carlos, it may surprise you to find that the answer to all of this lies within yourself.

I encourage you to fully embrace your motherhood journey. Remember, Noah will be a child only for so long. Cherish and fiercely protect the time that you have together. For now, you are Noah’s entire world.

Do not despair or give up on love, redirect your focus towards yourself. Your story shows that you do not hesitate to love and sacrifice for others …. Can the same be said about the relationship you have with yourself?

My advice is to put yourself first. Love and respect yourself enough to know that you ultimately deserve better. Never settle for less. If Carlos is not willing to put in the work to make your relationship functional and healthy, it may be time for you to weigh other options. There are always other options.

A final note: Noah will learn from the examples you set for him. Choose to be with a man that reflects the values you want Noah to have.

– S.