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6 years is not that long, I have been numb for 20 years after the breakup when I was 12 years old.
I loved her very much, and was there every day for her. I invested way too much (well that’s what happens when you fall in love when you are 12 years old, right?)
And one day she dumped me.
Why 20 years?
EGO. F**king ego.
Here’s what I have learned:
1. You will un numb your self start feeling the emotions (grieving process) when you will decide to accept the fact what happened to you.
If you still deny what happened, you will stay numb.
So to un numb your self and start the whole ‘crazy’ grieving stage, first you have to stop denying that you were dumped.
And, most important, start going out and get intimate with women. They will ‘break the ice’ of your trauma and you will start the grieving process. People are actually helpful with this, even if you don’t feel like trusting them right now.
2. Talk about what happened. TALK. TALK. TALK. Start with the ones you trust the most. If you don’t feel like saying much, just say that I had a girlfriend once.
The more you talk, and the more detailed you will be, the faster your healing process begins.
I have been numb for 20 years, and I didn’t even recognized that.
Believe me, un numb your self as fast as you can, you won’t regret it.