Dear Mina:

I wasn’t well aware of what you meant by sacrificing until the last couple of days: your sacrifice included not telling your ex boyfriend how you feel. Sacrificing meant pretending to him that you are okay with the breakup, while the breakup was discussed. Your sacrifice was about pretending you are okay so to prevent him from feeling any concern about you. Am I correct so far?

If so, your sacrifice was not a good idea. Honest sharing of your feelings is a good idea for you and for him. It is for your benefit and for his benefit to face reality as it is. Reality as-is included your feelings!

You mentioned before thanking him for having been your boyfriend, and you mentioned it again. I don’t understand: do you believe he did you a favor being your boyfriend? That he did not benefit from it himself? What is behind your desire to thank him?

anita