Dear Shannon:

I hope your appointment with a counselor helps you. If it does, maybe you can have a series of visits that will help guide you forward.

You wrote that you “don’t know how to make big life decisions”- it is tough to make big life decisions. The practice of making thoughtful small life decisions (like making an appointment with a counselor) is a good practice toward the making of big decisions.

Job shadowing, that is observing and maybe working with different employees for the goal of learning about their job, also reads like a good small life decision, a thoughtful choice.

I hope you focus on the small decisions, thoughtful small choices of every day, that is likely to decrease your anxiety and build your confidence in making bigger decisions. This applies not only to your studies and professional life but relationship life: thoughtfully, selectively choosing who you interact with and to what extent, starting small.

I hope you post again anytime and I hope others will respond as well with the support and encouragement that you need.

anita