Dear Shawn995:

It will be good for you to lessen your anxieties, to not worry about helping your family, to not even try to help them, not at all, but instead worry about yourself, take care of yourself. When do you get the chance to live your own life? When do you become important enough to be number one in your life?

What about your wishes, your desires, your interests (“i was never really driven by my wishes and desires or interests“)-

What if you were driven by your wishes and desires and interests?

And what if you knew what is best for you … and then went about to do what is best for you?

You will be less scared if there was someone to take care of you. And who can be that someone, if not you.

anita