Dear Chib:

I think the issue is not art and music and you linking him to these. Neither do I think it is about great intimacy that you shared with him. I think it is about you being guarded: in the past relationship with him and since, including in your current one.

Reads to me that you are using this past relationship as a guard against intimacy in your current relationship, fearing to be hurt, you protect yourself using this “ghost of (your) past.

One indication that there was no great intimacy in that past relationship is what you wrote here: “I don’t think he ever really did open up to me emotionally… so I have no idea if he feels the same”- if there was much intimacy you would have know  and you would have had a strong idea.

anita