Anita,

I cannot stop feeling guilty, do you know how I was NOT aware that I have also contributed to the break up before yesterday?

I was BLAMING my ex boyfriend and his military service and his instability because he keeps making decisions that will not benefit the relationships. I did not even see my fault in the relationship.

You wrote : “Regarding his grade as a boyfriend, he gave himself a poor grade.”

Can I perhaps, help in this case? Will it comfort my ex boyfriend If I express how he was actually a very good boyfriend regardless the hectic schedules he cannot handle? and how his decision to move college isn’t his fault at all?

I have a a few important questions :

1. Did I drove my ex boyfriend into depression?

2. Was I a burden to him?

3. Did he even loved me at all?

You wrote : “This guilt that you have, the self hate that you feel, this originated before you met him. What is that about, will you share with me?”

I tried thinking but nothing really came up. I would love to explore this, Anita.

-Mina

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