Dear Natasha:

I think that for the purpose of improving your relationship with him it is best that you no longer talk to his family members about him. When his aunt suggested he is not the man for you, pointing to something negative about him, I suppose- why is it that your conclusion is that in the relationship with his aunt, it is he who is in the wrong? Isn’t it possible that his aunt has wronged him, even mistreated him? It is no wonder to me that he was displeased with you having a conversation with her about him. I wouldn’t like it either.

If he is your man, if he was to become your fully committed partner, there must be trust, not a partial trust but complete trust. He must know that you are on his side, not on his aunt’s.

Regarding your son Noah suffering when you suffer in the context of this relationship, I strongly believe that you must protect him from such suffering and do whatever it takes to protect him, be it ending the relationship or otherwise adjusting it so that your son doesn’t suffer.

I hope you post again with an update about the therapy- I hope it is helpful.

anita