Hi struggling,

What was he like when you guys met? Was he attentive and doting? Or was he truly always like this? Either you miss the ways things used to be, or you’re tired of being in a non-emotional relationship.

I give him somewhat of a pass due to his chronic pain. Also, it sounds like he is comfortable enough to use good natured sarcasm/ribbing on you. It’s like he’s using sarcasm to say, “Of course I love you, silly! Don’t be ridiculous!”

I don’t think he would ever break up with you. Unfortunately, you would have to be the one to end it.

I don’t envy your decision. It’s harder because he’s not coming from a place of malice. But unless he changes (he won’t for long), it is what it is.

Best,

Inky