Hi Dreaming715,

I have read many studies of where they have done research on people who lived together before marriage, and people who got married before living together. The divorce rate was twice as high, or engagements broken off with the people who lived together before marriage, versus the people who waited until they got married before living together.

The times, I lived with my first love and fiance before marriage, it did not work out. It started off well, but then things got weird, and we started fighting over petty things. It then started to feel like we were roommates, rather than a loving couple. I would come home from work, he would never come up to me and miss or hug me, just was on his computer doing work. I barely even got a “hi”.We also started to go to bed at different times, when before we would snuggle and be romantic and make baths for each other. It seemed moving in together paralyzed things and we lost the spark and romance and only saw the negative and constantly fought.

This is why I don’t believe in living together before marriage. Wait till you have that wedding band on your finger.