Hi Kylee,

About a year ago, I had a break-up. I wasn’t with him very long, but I became emotionally attached to him very quickly. I thought he was “the one” even though he was quite a bit younger than me. Things were great in the beginning. I couldn’t imagine life without him. Then, I felt him distancing himself. He was on Facebook, and I noticed he was instagraming other women. He even “friended” one of my friends..and put her on his home page, where he had me “hidden” with his other friends I guess. I never really knew. But I liked him so much, I was too afraid to question him alot for fear of him thinking I was clingy.

Fast forward, we started communicating less and less where he was investing nothing at all in the relationship. I asked him to leave me, if he did not want to be in a relationship with me. He did not try to put up a fight, instead he got mean and said “what do you want???”. I tried to tell him..but he never responded, and things ended right before his birthday in October last year.

I cried over him for weeks. Wanted to contact him on his birthday. Even had to delete my Facebook Profile so I wouldn’t go to his page, because it showed romantic quotes about other women and it tore me up. I even prayed to God, to bring him back to me, I kept analyzing my decision to walk away for months, beat myself up, I even sent him a New Year’s eve wish, to which he never responded. I kept thinking of the good things, not the bad ways in which he treated me. I was bored, lonely and empty. I missed him terribly. Then one day in June, I woke up, not thinking about him, and if I did, nothing. No yearning, no crying, no analyzing. I was **finally** over him. I then wonder what I saw in him in the first place. His birthday just went by beginning of October. I thought I would surely think about him, I did a little, but no yearning, nothing. Instead, I thanked God for the short time I had with him, and the beautiful feelings he brought me.

You will get to this point too. Just be patient, and let yourself grieve and heal. There is no time limit. I was only with this man 3 months and it took me 9 months to “get over him” like PearceHawk wrote so well, everything happens for a reason.

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