I’m so glad I wrote the above.

last night, another friend contacted me  to tell me that my ex was on a well renowned dating site.  Why people do this, I’ll never know.  He tried to make light of it and sent me what she had written.  Her like/comments were all comments that my dad and I talked about weeks before he passed away.  My first thought was fury as she wasn’t interested in being there for us when dad was alive, yet could use our words to pull another man.  It was tempting to write to her and express my displeasure at this as I initally thought how sick!!!

After a bit of meditation a good nights sleep and a nice workout, I see it totally differently.  It’s not my issue what she does anymore.  We have made our choices and need to move on.  I’d love her to meet someone and be happy.  My choice was to take some time out, be on my own and heal myself, wait for something to happen naturally without the interview process and this has happened and I am so much better for it.

I see years of pain and hurt for my ex which will only make her worse, I also feel for the kids as they have been through so so much from both parents, such a long story.  I did feel like saying to her, “just stop and think for 5 minutes, your son has just gone to Uni, your daughter has just started 6th form and both will need you.  Why can’t you spend your time focusing on them and yourself solely for a little while instead of trying to get another man in your life, don’t you think they’ve been through enough in their young lives?”

Both kids used to come to me for advice, support and help as opposed to their mum and dad as I was around more than either of their parents and their dads new wife.

I woke this morning thinking how lucky I am and as I write this, I feel totally blessed as my new lady and I can talk about all of the things that are going on in both of our lives, we listen, we don’t judge and we aren’t threatened by what we hear.  I know that I’ve broken my cycle of  looking for Damsells in Distress and the hurt this causes in the long run.

Have a great weekend.

Andy