Dear Veronica:

Well, you got my attention. Share more and I will attend to what you post.

You usually don’t post much, don’t share much. December of last year you shared: ” I remember one incidence on which I have no emotions – I did not cry nor get mad. I was completely numb. It was when my parents had a fight. My father hit my mom. I saw many blood on the floor as I approach my unconscious mom”.

It is that little girl who approached her unconscious mother who needs attention. She is numb because she doesn’t want to feel the fear she felt then, at that incident. And ever since, still afraid.

You have access to that little girl, talk kindly to her, gently. Show her that she is safe with you, safe. Be patient with her. Over time she will say more to you, share more. As she does, listen to her with empathy, let her know again and again that you will take good care of her.

The numbness will dissipate over time, the feelings will come back. You will be able to endure them. Life will be different then.

anita