Dear Gagan:

No, I don’t think you are too late. Not at all. You asked how to go about finding “a loving, romantic and a friendly life partner”-

Go about it by dating different women while not getting physically involved with them. Take let’s say six months to do that. During those six months learn about the different women. Let each know that you want to be friends first (for six months) and evaluate the relationship in six months so to decide if both want to go further.

In those six months learn what a loving life partner means. It is my understanding that at this point you don’t know what it means, not fully. The part that you don’t know can mess up your life. I will explain: your ex girlfriend had a major flaw, one that does not qualify her as a loving life partner. That flaw is that when in conflict she had to be always right.

And yet, in your expressions here you ignore this major flaw, calling her love for you in the past “unconditional” while in reality it was conditional on you being always wrong when in conflict. A friendly life partner doesn’t hang up the phone on you when she is displeased either.

It is not enough for a woman to cook for you and cuddle. It is nice, I am sure. But not enough to qualify as a loving life partner. There is learning to do then and learn, is my suggestion.

anita