Dear Gagan:

You are welcome.

In your pain, hold on to what you value most. Be loyal to what you value. If you do value love and you regret not loving before, not this woman and not, as you shared before, previous women in your life, you can love now. Loving this woman now means withdrawing from her life, not spending any time alone with her.

Instead of reacting any which way to your feelings, doing just anything when hurting, wait for a moment and think, make thoughtful choices. Replace automatic behavior with thoughtful choices and let your values guide these choices.

I hope you post again anytime.

anita