anita,

wow thank you so much for sharing so much about you. I wonder if we will ever cross paths in life – this tiny buddha website has enabled my sister and I to speak with such a beautiful soul (you!)

When I read about your life, it helps me realize HOW MUCH we really have to heal as humans. Your husband must be a very supportive man, I hope, and am very happy for you. Going through what you have gone through with your mother, what is your relationship like with the current children in you life?

Your life work is healing. Do you ever crave a social life? (Indulgent activities, in other words, that you have stated you do not participate in) Or straying from your daily routine?

Remember, your life work is healing – but you are also helping the healing of others. Which is amazing.

Continuing on with what you said about my mother – APPEARANCE IS EVERYTHING. My sister and I were just discussing that so much of our life is governed this concept. and that every little thing is a reflection of who we are as people.

if i dont get to bring my puppy to the dog park, it automatically makes me a bad person. sometimes it is so hard to focus on just the fact that the puppy is having a good time at the dog park – rather than thinking “ok i did what i had to do. i brought him out so he can get energy out” – everything is a chore and there is always a categorization that comes after it. no way to just be.

also, i want to add a revelation i came across yesterday. my father and mother have always put so much influence on the outside/the external – as you know. everything is about other people. so for example, with social life, they would always claim “well even if you do not like them, just use them to go shopping and then who cares.” When rather the thought process should be, this person may not be your best friend or the BEST PERSON EVER! – BUT you do enjoy shopping with them – and as you, anita, have taught me we are social beings – SO – if you want to go shopping with this person it may be enjoyable for YOU. it is not about the other person or using them etc. it is just about you.

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