I think as Inky says, we can’t really understand our gut immediately. I think years, months, weeks after making a decision based on our gut feeling we will understand exactly why things had to happen the way it did. Because someone is nice and sweet it doesn’t mean we have to love them and stay there, sometimes we do, but many people end up in unfulfilling and unhappy relationships. You said that you learned a lot, this was the lesson here and as I said you were very brave and honest.
Personally I admire you because I have had a gut feeling in me for about two years that the person I’m with is not for me and I have acted on this feeling, then went back together. I also felt relief every time I broke up. It kept coming back so I understood it as more lessons to come. Now, two years later, I am still feeling this big NO in my gut. It just feels like a NO. Every time during the day and during the relationship it has been there. Sure it can feel less stronger during moments of joy, pleasure and love. But it has never disappeared.
Good luck to all!
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