Mark,

Thank you so much for your response.

Demographics: We’ve been in a relationship for 6 months. I’m 22, he’s 30.

His family history, his development is something I always consider. Hence, why I’m not mad at him. I understand where he comes from. Father passed when he was in primary, mother wasn’t around often, and his step dad was more a friend than a father figure. He’s been single for almost 4 years now and he has mentioned that no other girlfriend expressed concern. They were a bit passive in their approach about this issue.

Labeling myself isn’t healthy but I just feel so out of character. Didn’t start dating until I turned 20. Before then I believed boys still had cooties way into high school. Kidding, kinda. Teehee. I was just focused on school and sports. Still am. I just finally found someone who I connect with so well.

I notice him stare and blush and I when grab his attention, I communicate my disappointment with my eyes. Well enough to get through to him and he apologizes. It stops for a bit but then a new one comes along and he does it all over again. I just don’t know if this amount of effort on my part will produce a desirable outcome. I know words aren’t enough to placate my doubts, either. Am I wrong for trying to change this behavior?

If he truly loved me, would he stop? I’m at an impasse here.

Your two cents are much appreciated,

E