Dear Buddi:

In a world where all men look for women half their age, then in that world, of course, you will not be able to find love with a man… younger than eighty, I suppose.

In that world, you have no chance of finding love… with a many younger than eighty.

In a world where the only place to live is in the bay area of the state of California, where … well, you get my point. You presented a situation where you are stuck, have no options.. oh, stuck is indeed in the title of your thread.

I understand your concerns, of course. I understand the pressure of high cost living, the reality that some men do look for much younger women and don’t see beyond physical attractiveness. There is nothing you can change about your situation that will be challenge free, no easy way out of this stuck-ness.

But there may very well be a way for a better life for you and for your son. If the two of you are not doing well, then I do hope there is a better way, a better life for the two of you.

Notice: it is way more important for your boy to have a healthy, kind and gentle parents than it is to have a mean father (that is what your son told you) and a troubled mother living in an expensive home in the bay area.

I have more thoughts but don’t want to make this post too long.

anita