Dear Maria:

Do you think his meme was aimed at you, a way to tell you something without directly doing so?

I don’t think you told him too  soon. You told him what you felt when you felt it. It was not a commitment that you shared with him, as in… you are the one for me! You simply told him you were really enjoying his company. That is only a feeling. Then he told you something about his feeling.

Feelings do change: you enjoyed his company very much, then you felt hurt. Then you felt angry. A friendship, a relationship is a developing process, and feelings as they change and develop, or not, is only a part of it.

No one can make anyone else feel a certain way. Just like there probably were men in your life who wanted you to feel what you didn’t feel. Same here.

We don’t choose our feelings. They just happen. Can’t see to  it that another feels a certain way any more than we can see to it that we feel a certain way.

Reads to me like you perceive that something horrible happened when you shared what you did with him and him responded with what he felt. I don’t see it as something horrible. It is not necessary to perceive it that way.

anita