Hi Corticality,

You and I are in the same boat. I didnt date my ex for 8 years like you did but I really really loved (or still love) her after we broke up. She just told me few days ago that she has no feelings for me. I got to know that he is coming back to the city where I live for a while and I texted her (we are in touch but only because she knows that I was going through depression and loneliness).

I think I am still depressed but to some lesser extent. I really don’t know what advice I can give you but what really helped me a bit is to be aware that it is over and it is probably a done deal. She will never come back. I cried a lot…a lot really which I feel helped at some level. I am focusing on other things like exercising, slowly trying to meet new people ( I used to love meeting new people), focusing to improve myself. Maybe you always wanted to reduce your coffee or quit smoking or take up a new hobby.
What Mark said is really correct. You can start writing a journal of what mistakes you did which you can try not to repeat again.

Keep writing every time you feel down…we are here for you

• This reply was modified 6 years, 10 months ago by CarpeDiem.